Advice: Being confident within yourself

Hey guys! So if you are a regular reader of my blog you will know that I previously did a post on Self Confidence (go check it out). However, it was more about my personal struggle with self confidence and just talking about the issue in general. I've noticed that so many I you have read the post that I've decided to give some 'advice'. 
Now I am by no means an expert but I just thought that it would help :) 

Tip 1: Know your flaws and accept them 
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The stem of self confidence issues for many people are their flaws. We tend to pick at all the bad bits about ourselves because someone mentioned them once and make it ten times worse than they actually are. But, if you know you're flaws and accept them then no-one can use them against you. No-one can bully you or tease you about them because you know that no-one is perfect and you're perfectly okay with it :) 
Now you may think, what does she know? This girl is just some stupid teenager who knows nothing about me. And all of that is true. The only thing that I can offer is that I can empathise as I know how you're feeling. I do the exact same thing and I continue to pick at my flaws. So here are five things that I hate about myself but I am perfectly okay with them;
1) My acne
2) My nose
3) My weight
4) My colour skin 
5) My social awkwardness

Now a year ago these things would have me crying at night but now that I acknowledge them and accept them they bother me far less. Granted, they still bother me but it's one step closer to being comfortable in your own skin.

Tip 2:Accept who you are because everyone is different 
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I don't know about you but I feel as if everyone is trying to be someone their not. Yet, society forces you to try and be 'different' because being 'normal' is so outdated.

I say screw them. 

It doesn't matter if you're 'different' or 'normal' because in my book there is no different and normal. How can you define being normal? And how can you define being different when you don't know what being normal is? People don't care if you're 'mainstream' or not, or if you prefer pink to blue. People care about you and your personality. Being yourself is the best you can be. 

It's okay to like something different or look slightly different because if we were all the same it would just be boring.

Tip 3: Don't take everything to heart

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I can't express how true the quote above is. In the past when I was at my lowest, it was because people (some I didn't even know) had made comments about me. They weren't massive things but all these little snide remarks built up until they broke me down. 
Some people say horrible stuff without even realising it but others get a kick out of it. Those people are horrible and aren't not going to get through life being nasty. You have to rise above it because the majority of the time what they're saying isn't even true. Just take it in your stride and show you're not affected by it so they won't do it again.

Tip 4: Talk to people


A problem that I faced was that I didn't talk to anyone about how I was feeling and I just felt worse. You need to talk to people, maybe they can help you solve things but even if they can't at least you have got all this pent up aggression (or other emotion) out of your system. I have a few close friends that I tell certain things to that I know I can trust.
However, if you feel as if you really don't want to tell anyone about it then write it down. You can either keep a diary or write it on a scrap piece of paper and throw it away. This may seem stupid but it really does help :)

Tip 5: BE CONFIDENT!

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You're not going to be comfortable in your own skin if you appear insecure (don't know what for )(yes, I just made a one direction reference...shoot me) (please don't). You may not feel confident but if you act it people will believe you are. Once people start admiring how confident you are, you will start to believe it. Remember that confidence is sexy and it makes accepting your(beautiful)self far easier.

I don't know if this helped...I don't think it really did :) oh well. I think I just waffled. Don't forget to check out my twitter and instagram :)
I might have another post up tonight but I don't know. I'm going to sort my blog and YouTube out on Thursday (scouts honour) (I'm not a scout but you get what I mean)

Bye xx














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