Self Confidence



Self Confidence is such a big issue among people my age. With people in magazines being airbrushed and society forcing you to conform to their idea of perfect, it's only natural for people to get lost and upset.

I'm one of those people.

Now this is not a sob story but I merely felt like sharing this with you guys (even if it's just a few of you). I have never been an overly confident person but I was not ashamed of who I was when I was younger. I was just your average child until puberty came along. In my family there is a long history of severe acne problems, so I kind of had it coming. When I first started to get spots they weren't that bad, however to this day they have (not so much ruined) but made my life bumpier. 
I'm a British born Indian who isn't THE most attractive person but now I look in the mirror and feel nothing but hatred. When I was 11 or 12 that was when people started commenting on my acne and my many flaws. People didn't realising that every little comment or look put me down further. It came to a point were people thought it was okay to make fun of me and my appearance, just because I tolerated it. 
My self-confidence in the past year has been at an all time low. I've started wearing heavy make-up everyday and I hate it. I hate masking everything and showing society the flawless me that yet want. It's come to the point where if someone compliments me, I deny it or lash out.
I don't really know where I'm going with this but my advice to all us teenagers out there is; screw society. 
You are what you are and you can't change that. By putting make-up on or dying your hair or changing your clothes you're only masking the problem. People should like you for you, but you gotta love yourself first. You are all amazing and beautiful in your own way. I mean that. Looks aren't everything and being superficial in the long run doesn't help you. It's also okay to be different or to look different because otherwise we'd be boring.
My New Years resolution is to wear less make-up. But really it's to start being me again.

This was kind of a weird post because I just kind of blurted out what was in my head. Sorry! 
Anywho if any of you guys want to talk or anything email me at; lifeofsandy2013@gmail.com
I warn you that this is purely for this blog and is not my personal account. No haters please!!

Happy New Years guys! 

Sandy xx

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